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I feel myself wasting a lot of time online these days; perhaps it is time for another internet-free weekend (or longer).  I do need to hunt for work but I feel a little disorganized and scattered these days.  It’s as if I have too much on my table, and I’m wasting time deciding what to tackle first.  Sometimes when I do start something, I think I should be focusing on something a little more important and I feel guilty.  Or I start something more important, and then get this mental block, but I’m unwilling to do something else that’s on my “to-do” list because I feel that I should be getting that one thing done first.

I’ve been trying to get a lot of e-mail sent out.  I finished a number of letters that had been sitting in my draft folder; I have about seven left, plus one more that I’ve started in the last few days.   I’m also trying to see what I can get done in terms of starting a new writing project.


Sent messages

I got something in the mail today from a friend who I sort of knew when we were both in Moncton, but ended up connecting a bit better on the Internet than in meatspace.  There’s something satisfying about getting an actual piece of mail that isn’t just a bill.  I especially appreciate it when people take the time to actually print or handwrite at length…there seems to be a greater investment in what’s written when someone takes pen to paper.

I’ve stated before that as part of my 30 Before 30 I wanted to finish all the unfinished draft e-mails I had started before I started my list of goals, and then send at least 30 new e-mails out.  I also wanted to send 30 pieces of “snail mail” out before that time.  I’m still having trouble deciding what kind of message to send to whom: I know I have three people so far that I will definitely send a snail mail letter to, but I’m still juggling the possibilities.

If you want me to send you an e-mail or an actual physical letter, please let me know.

The great call for e-mail

I have to admit that this post is a shameless ploy for response and attention, but I’m going to go ahead with it anyway.  You remember how I wrote a little while back about how I’m a bad e-mailer?  I would like as many people who see this post to either leave me a comment or send me an e-mail…but my challenge is that with the e-mail or comment, you actually have something to say that would be a springboard for a dialogue with me.  Go in depth, ask questions, and tell me more about yourself.  I want to know a little more about who’s reading these blog posts; whether they were brought here by my self-promotion or if they jumped into the blog by tag-surfing.

I’m also looking for more blogs/pages for the blogroll and ways to interact with other bloggers.  If anyone has any layout tips or recommendations, I welcome them as well.

My e-mail address is bjdwsm[at]gmail[dot]com.

Bad E-mailer

I’ve noticed that I haven’t been so good at initiating or replying to e-mails lately.  I think that there must be some variation on Newton’s Law about a body at rest going on there.  Usually when I send out an e-mail these days it’s strictly for a transaction.  I have made about two e-mails to other people in the last month that could really feel like personal e-mails.  One was a quick happy birthday to a friend out in Calgary, and the other was a long-gestating life update I sent to a friend from my high school days.

I think my decreased e-mail output is a symptom of how much social media has taken over our lives.  It’s easier to come up with a 140-character tweet that anyone can see or a Facebook status that is more tailor-made to people who are at the very least somewhat familiar with you.  I love what Facebook and Twitter has opened up, but I when I think about how much I used to e-mail people before and how little I do now, it’s disheartening.  There’s something to be said about sharing between two parties, intimate and undiluted.  Yes, Facebook and Twitter have private message options.  But I feel more like elaborating and filling in when I’m sending an e-mail.

I think part of the issue is that I’m sometimes intimidated.  Intimidated by the blank text field and intimidated by who I’m sending it to.  If there’s a common thread of business or interest, I feel alright.  If it’s someone I feel fully comfortable with, I’m more likely to type.  But e-mails to other people I’d like to know better often feel rushed and done to get it over with, and I don’t feel like I was sending as myself.

When the year started, the two goals I had for myself were openness and connectivity.  My intention for this blog is to help myself meet these two goals by writing here often and as truthfully as I can.

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